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Tune in tonight to the Doug Noll Show 7pm PT. My guest tonight is Judithe Registre, the program director at Plan International USA for the Because I am a Girl campaign, which creates sustainable projects in developing countries to give girls access to the most basic of human rights: clean water, food, healthcare, education, financial security, and protection from violence and exploitation. The lines are open for your questions and comments at   877-474-3302, or Internationally, 01 858-623-0126.

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On the Doug Noll Radio Show Thursday February 21st at 7pm Pacific, Doug interviews International Advocate for Women Judithe Registre, the director of Plan International USA for the Because I Am A Girl Campaign which creates sustainable projects in developing countries to give girls access to the most basic human rights: clean water, food, healthcare, education, and protection from violence and exploitation.

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Segment 1: Don Philbin, Master Mediator.

On this edition of The Doug Noll Show, we speak with Don Philbin, master mediator, 2011 Outstanding Lawyer in Mediation, and elected fellow of the International Academy of Mediators and the American Academy of Civil Trial Mediators. Don is also the creator of PictureItSettled,  a highly-intelligent predictive analytics software tool that guides lawyers and mediators through the negotiation process. To find out more about PictureItSettled, please see http://www.pictureitsettled.com/.

Don did commercial litigation for years, and then moved to corporate law. Eventually he got his MBA and ended up in management. Don tells us he did litigation and transactions for years, and it finally dawned on him that he could do them together…which is basically what mediation is: assisting people in their negotiation to put deals together instead of going to court.

Segment 2: 98% emotional, 2% rational.

So when we have lawyers representing parties in mediation, what’s the role of the mediator? Don tells us that the mediator is “not the other side.” The mediator comes in as a neutral third party and offers options for the two sides to explore. Well-trained mediators have studied behavioral economics, neuroscience and psychology and know how people react in stressful situations. They can help frame the issues and choices for parties.

Our host, Doug Noll, says we’re 98% emotional and 2% rational, and lawyers are no different. Lawyers are generally poor negotiators and are subject to the same emotional mistakes that everyone else makes. Additionally, lawyers typically do not get the appropriate negotiating training in law school. The mediator’s role is to be able to spot when cognitive and decisional errors are interfering with decision making and gently guide the opposing parties in a direction that moves them toward settlement instead of toward impasse.

Segment 3: The Negotiation Dance.

So what gave Don the idea that negotiations were predictable enough to analyze? He says that once you are involved in case after case, you start to notice some similarities across cases. There seems to be a social convention that progress will be in increments. People mimic each other’s behavior to a certain extent. Parties will cooperate or get competitive within their negotiation, predictably. Mediators know intuitively that there is a certain rhythm to the day, from beginning offers to the ending deal. There is a pattern to the negotiation dance.

Segment 4: Reducing the Emotionality of Decision Making.

PictureItSettled is a predictive analytics online software program. Once you start making moves in negotiation, the settlement profit will start to predict where the deal is going to end up. It will predict when and where the intersection will take place. Don tells us it takes 2 offers on each side before PictureItSettled has enough information to predict the outcome. Of course it gets better with each additional round. Let’s say you want to run “what if” scenarios before you make an offer. It can anticipate the actions on the other side. If you have the software, you have a good idea of where the settlement will land. It reduces the emotionality in the decision making around settling lawsuits and allows people to stay cognitively clear.

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This post is about assessing the intangibles of a lawsuit and factoring them into your preparation.

The first thing to realize is that trials are beauty contests. A significant amount of social psychological research has established that jurors form opinions about the case very early in the proceedings. Jury selection and opening statements are the two most important parts of the trial. If you have not convinced the jury by the close of opening statements of the righteousness of your cause, you will probably lose. For the rest of the trial, each juror is going to use the confirmation bias to seek facts that support his or her initial belief. Therefore, you have to assess what kind of story you can tell, and how that story compares to the story that the other side is likely to tell.

You also have to assess how likable your client is and how likable the other guy is. You have to be brutally honest in this process. You want to believe your client and thinking that he or she is going to be liked. However, any warts are going to be magnified intensely in the courtroom.

You also have to assess your experience and opposing counsel’s experience. In all likelihood, you have had very little trial experience. Do not be surprised if you are up against a more senior lawyer who also has very little trial experience. I have known senior partners who portray themselves as litigators who have never tried a jury trial.

Experience does count, however. So if your opponent has a lot more trial experience than you do, you have to take that into account. That does not mean that you will lose just because you lack experience. You simply have to factor in that the more experienced trial lawyer is less like to make mistakes that you are.

You can find out a lot about opposing counsel on the Internet. It is amazing what people disclose about themselves in social media, on blogs, in podcast, and videos. It is much more likely that you will get this kind of information about younger lawyers. The vast majority of lawyers in their 60s do not even know what social media is and do not want to mess with it. However, you can still research counsel through verdicts and settlements to see what kinds of verdicts, if any, they have experienced.

Another factor concerns the type of typical juror found in your jurisdiction. You need to think about your best jury and your very worst jury. Some cases lend themselves well to jury trials, while other cases would put a jury to sleep. Think about the kinds of people that live in your community, their political beliefs, their ethnicity, their religious beliefs, their interests, and their hobbies.

You also have to consider who the trial judge might be. If you have a judge assigned for all purposes, as is usually the case in federal court and in some state courts, you will have a pretty good idea of what you are facing. Make a few phone calls to colleagues about their experiences with your judge and learn as much as you can about his or her background, beliefs, biases, and attitudes. Judges are human just like everyone else and are not immune from cognitive biases and decisional distortions. The more you can understand how your judge processes information, the better you can assess what might happen in that court room.

Remember, the best way to win the game is to call it yourself.

Better still, change the game completely.

Douglas E. Noll
Mediator, Author, and
California Lawyer 2012 Attorney of the Year
for Pro Bono Service
Creator of Negotiation Mastery for the Legal Pro –
A new online course in cutting-edge legal negotiation
legalpronegotiator.com

Segment 1: Simply Incapable of Declaring War.

Our guest on this edition of The Doug Noll show is Dr. Brien Hallett, an associate professor at the Matsunaga Institute for Peace & Conflict Resolution at the University of Hawaii. Dr. Hallett began his career as an English professor but soon got hooked on the topic of war and peace, and ended up switching gears to attain his Ph.D. in Political Science. His latest book is titled Declaring War: Congress, the President, and What the Constitution Does Not Say.

Dr. Hallett tells us that the constitution says Congress should make the decision for war or peace, but that actually never happens. He thinks Congress is simply incapable. In fact, the U.S. has been unable to declare war since 1789, even though we have been involved in numerous wars since that time.

Segment 2: A Constitutional Duty.

Essentially the President is allowed to start a war without asking permission from Congress. If Congress actually undertook its constitutional duty to argue and debate over the declaration or war, we would have a much more public and robust discussion about whether or not we should use force.

Dr. Hallett believes there are two main reasons this does not happen.  First of all, for 5,000 years Kings and Emperors have made this decision. Everyone expects the war leaders to make the decision whether or not to go to war. Secondly, Congress is too large and busy, and its primary function is to pass domestic laws. It is not built to accomplish a function such as declaring war. It is simply unable.

Segment 3: A Fourth Branch of Congress.

If Congress is not taking on the authority to declare war, then the people of the U.S. have very little say on whether or not we use force. This is a fundamental problem and a major flaw in the constitution. Dr. Hallett thinks we should change the constitution and he is proposing removing the power to make foreign policy (and declare war) out of Congress and establishing it in an independent branch of government. This fourth branch of Congress would have 50 members and would be elected by the state legislatures. Their job would be to conduct foreign policy and review the relationships between the U.S. and countries around the world. They would identify problems early and solve them by peaceful means.

Segment 4: Declaring War: Congress, the President, and What the Constitution Does Not Say.

Dr. Hallett says his book is meant to be disruptive, and he acknowledges that his proposal is, currently at least, politically impossible. He is just trying to get people to consider the problem and look at alternatives. The first step is to start the debate. It is not a question of political will; it’s a question of political structure. Congress is structured so that it cannot worry about foreign affairs. It can’t do what the 2^nd Continental Congress did. That was a small group who would get together and discuss problems and find solutions. Today’s Congress is large and complicated – which is a good thing for domestic policy – but it doesn’t work for foreign affairs.

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In this post, I want to talk a little bit about the attributes of a master negotiator.
I have mediated thousands of conflicts of all different kinds, both litigated and non-litigated. I have had the opportunity to work with some truly masterful negotiators. There are some uniform attributes and characteristics that are worth keeping in mind as you develop into a powerful, kick ass negotiator.
The first attribute is to recognize that negotiation is a process, not an event. In law school you are taught that the ultimate outcome is either a verdict or a decision on appeal. The focus is on the outcome for the client and not a lot of time is spent on all the processes. Thus, the conversations are around how to avoid mistakes, how to obtain the best outcomes for clients, and the focus is on winning.
In negotiation, the outcome will be defined by how well the process is managed. Master negotiators understand that process determines outcome. Master negotiators will spend considerable time making sure that the process is functioning properly to move the parties towards settlement. In short, master negotiators focus on process.
 Master negotiators also recognize that legal negotiation involves decision-making in the face of great uncertainty and risk. For the client, the stakes of a lawsuit can be very high. No one can predict what a jury will do in any given case. Therefore, sending a dispute to trial for decision is not quite as random as a roulette wheel, but sometimes seems that way.
Master negotiators study disciplines far beyond the law. They want to understand the principles behind cognitive biases and decision-making errors. They understand that emotions drive decisions and therefore knowing about emotions in human brains is just as important as knowing about the applicable principles of law in a case.
Master negotiators also know that negotiation always contains a tension between competition and cooperation. On the one hand, negotiators wish to obtain the best outcome possible for their clients. But if they are too competitive, the negotiation will collapse in impasse. Thus, cooperation is needed. However, if cooperation is to freely given, the possibility of exploitation by the other side is always possible. The master negotiator manages that tension effectively.
The master negotiator cultivates a strategic mindset directed towards helping the client make the best decision possible with an eye towards the deep consequences of that decision in years ahead. Master negotiators recognize hardball players instantly. They have learned how to identify hardball tactics, label them, and deal with them by focusing on the process of negotiation. They do not stoop to emotional, ad hominem attacks or gratuitous comments at the ethics or behaviors of opposing counsel or parties.
Master negotiators also recognize that being a lawyer does not equate to being a master negotiator. Master negotiators have learned that law school teaches analysis based on an adversary ideology. Law school teaches students how to become appellate judges, read appellate decisions, and write appellate memorandums. Generally speaking, those skills are not used in negotiation. Although more law schools are offering elective courses in mediation and even in negotiation, these offerings are considered to be fringe courses. Many law professors do not consider the skills of negotiation to be worthy of instruction in the law curriculum.
Since so much of the law curriculum is based upon the reading and analysis of appellate decisions, litigation is taught as a zero-sum game in which there can only be a winner and a loser. In every case, law students must understand why one side lost, and the other side won. As they distill out the rules of law from the cases, they are indoctrinated in a philosophy that lawyering is about winning cases for clients. The core values of negotiation, which include cooperation, compromise, and collaboration with opposing counsel and parties are not only ignored in law school, they are disdained.
Master negotiators recognize that negotiation outcomes are not always as gratifying as trial outcomes, but neither are they as depressing. Since negotiation involves compromise, there is no high similar to the rush of winning a jury trial. In addition, lawyers do not measure themselves by their skill in negotiation. Rather, they seek reputations for toughness, trial competency, and dogged persistence against all odds. When was the last time you heard a lawyer described as a great negotiator?

Remember, the best way to win the game is to call it yourself.
Better still, change the game completely.

Douglas E. Noll
Mediator, Author, and
California Lawyer 2012 Attorney of the Year
for Pro Bono Service
Creator of Negotiation Mastery for the Legal Pro –
A new online course in cutting-edge legal negotiation
legalpronegotiator.com

In this post, we are going to look at the two fundamental forms of negotiation.

The first form of negotiation, and the one that is most familiar to lawyers, is called distributive negotiation. In distributive negotiation, the parties are negotiating how to divide or redistribute things. Thus, in a lawsuit, negotiation is often about how much money the defendant will pay the plaintiff for the case to go away. This type of negotiation is called distributive because value is being distributed from one party to another.

The second form of negotiation is called integrative negotiation. In integrative negotiation, the parties are looking for ways to expand their options and create value. In contrast to distributive negotiation, integrative bargaining involves problem-solving and value enhancement. An example of integrative negotiation might occur in a lawsuit involving two businesses over breach of contract. While the parties might negotiate for a fixed payment to settle the claim, they might also find a way to expand, and renew, their business relationship so that both sides benefit from the negotiation.

Sometimes you hear the terms zero-sum and win-win. These are important terms to understand in negotiation and are often misused because they are misunderstood.

In a zero-sum situation, the only way that I can gain is if you lose. In other words, there is no way for both of us to come out ahead or be winners. This is the pure definition of competition because in competition, there can only be one winner.

Distributive negotiation is often viewed as a solution to a zero-sum problem. But a zero-sum problem confronts us with a fundamental strategic problem in negotiation. You might have already come across this and wondered about it.

The dilemma is “Do I compete and play hardball?”or “Do I cooperate?”

The problem is this:

If I am too competitive, I will blow a chance for settlement.
But if I am too cooperative, I might give up too much.

This is the fundamental dilemma facing every negotiator.
 
How do I avoid impasse, but not give up everything to get a deal?

Sometimes, a highly cooperative approach, such as integrative negotiation can foster a deal. Other times, a more competitive approach, such as distributive negotiation, is more effective.

The takeaway is that the nature of the problem dictates the negotiation process to be used. As long as the conflict remains centered on things and is not too emotional, distributive negotiation and evaluative mediation will tend to work. However, distributive negotiation is not efficient or effective at high levels of conflict or when emotions are in play. In these kinds of disputes, either traditional or facilitative mediation is often needed to de-escalate the emotions before there can be distributive bargaining. It is important for you to remember these two principles:

•    As long as the conflict remains emotional, integrative negotiation processes are effective and efficient.
•    Integrative negotiation is not efficient or effective at low levels of escalation or when things are solely in play.

You should not be surprised to know that most negotiations involve emotions and most negotiations involve things. Therefore, you must be skilled at both integrative and distributive negotiation. You must also be comfortable with evaluative, traditional, and facilitative mediation processes because a good mediator will use all three in a given process.

Remember, the best way to win the game is to call it yourself.
Better still, change the game completely.

Douglas E. Noll
Mediator, Author, and
California Lawyer 2012 Attorney of the Year
for Pro Bono Service
Creator of Negotiation Mastery for the Legal Pro –
A new online course in cutting-edge legal negotiation
legalpronegotiator.com

 

This post  is about your role in negotiation. Negotiation is a strategic communication that involves either making deals or resolving conflicts. We are going to explore these two aspects of negotiation.

Let us start with negotiating business deals. In business deals, the usual goal is for both parties to gain something they did not have before.

In a buy sell negotiation, the buyer is acquiring an asset, such as a business, and the seller is gaining a more liquid asset, such as cash. Likewise, in a joint venture or private equity deal, the investors gaining a position in a company, while the owners are gaining much needed capital.
The question is, what is your role in negotiating a business deal?

Are you to do the deal? Or, are you just to do the documents?

Or, are you to have a role in both aspects of the negotiation?

In many business deals, the clients negotiate between themselves, decide on the essential terms of the deal, and then turn the details over to the lawyers.In these situations, the lawyer’s role is to anticipate failure points and document what will happen in worst case situations. Typically, one side will be looking to restrict the consequences of failure, while the other side will be looking to expand the consequences of failure.

For example, in a loan negotiation, the lender will want as much collateral and limiting conditions as it can reasonably obtain to protect against nonpayment in the event of default. The borrower would ideally like a nonrecourse unsecured promissory note that results in no liability in the event of default. The negotiation between the lender and the borrower might be quite brief, while the negotiation between the lawyers over what rights and obligations will be created in the loan documents could be very lengthy.

Clients often complain that lawyers tank deals. There is a certain amount of truth in this complaint because the negotiation between the lawyers can become so competitive that they are unable to agree or compromise on sticking points.When you are negotiating the details on behalf of a client, it therefore becomes important to have constant communication with your client.

Although you might be the expert in secured transactions, for example, you need to be explaining the risks and problems to your client so that you work as a team in deciding what is important and what can be conceded.

The other aspect of negotiation is settling conflicts, especially lawsuits. Very few civil cases go to trial. The only civil trial lawyers that really gain significant trial experience are insurance defense lawyers. Even then, with rare exceptions, a defense lawyer might only try three or four cases a year. For plaintiffs’ personal-injury lawyers, trying cases is unprofitable. Thus, the vast majority of personal-injury cases settle. he same is true in other types of civil litigation. Business cases almost always settle, although there are notable exceptions like the Samsung v. Apple case in 2012 when Apple obtained a billion dollar  judgment against Samsung for patent infringement. Most family law cases also resolve through settlement.

The fact of the matter is that litigation is a sport of kings. Very few middle-class people and small businesses can afford the cost and risk of a lawsuit. It is why people buy liability insurance. Consequently, as a lawyer representing a client in a conflict or dispute, you play a major role in negotiating towards resolution of the problem.

In disputes headed for litigation or in litigation, your goal is to manage the risk of loss if you are defending and to optimize gain  if you are prosecuting. Thus, your role is much different settling a case than in negotiating a business deal.

Lawyers generally take a leading role in negotiating settlements of disputes and claims. There are times when the client is actively involved in the negotiation process. In other cases, the client is passive and relies upon you to negotiate the best deal possible.

The most important thing to remember is that clients make the final decision. And they do so only after being informed by the lawyer of the risks and benefits of the settlement.

Remember, the best way to win the game is to call it yourself.
Better still, change the game completely.

Douglas E. Noll
Mediator, Author, and
California Lawyer 2012 Attorney of the Year
for Pro Bono Service
Creator of Negotiation Mastery for the Legal Pro –
A new online course in cutting-edge legal negotiation
legalpronegotiator.com

Segment 1: Be Right or Be Happy.

Conflict is heavily tied to emotion. Often emotion arises from traumatic experiences and is a means of coping and surviving those experiences. As peacemakers, how can we work with our emotions so that they become liberating instead of confining? To answer this question we will be speaking with Don Milton on this edition of The Doug Noll Show. http://donmilton.net/

Don’s passion is teaching and coaching others to find opportunity and wisdom within stressful situations. He empowers his clients and encourages them to embrace open doors and unlimited possibilities. He believes that to thrive after catastrophic events depends on our attitude and how we approach the situation. We can either have a break down or a break through. So why is it that people have such a difficult time understanding the choice? It’s human nature: we would rather be right than happy.

Segment 2: Connecting the Head and the Heart.

Don has studied a lot of healing modalities and spiritual practices. His journey began after his divorce in 1990. He grew up in the Catholic Church but started questioning it when he was 18, which led to more and more questions and confusion. After a tough divorce, he met people who had a glow about them and a peace about them, and he wanted that. He began to study energy work and had a spiritual awakening in 1992, and that experience totally changed his life. His journey has been about connecting his head and heart. He says, “The ego and the mind are great things as long as you don’t use them too much.”

Segment 3: Emotional Freedom.

Don calls himself an “Emotional Freedom Coach.” He helps people understand what causes emotional distress and gives them tools to help eliminate the stressors. Don defines the “Cycle of Creation” as: our beliefs determine the way we think about things, our thinking determines the way we feel about things, our feelings determine the actions we take, which determines the results that we get, and then our results determine our beliefs. Beliefs are not easily changed. It takes a great deal of determination and self-awareness to change beliefs.

Segment 4: Divine Guidance.

Don’s work can help folks with anxiety and depression, among other things. He is deeply interested in the mind-body-spirit dynamic. Don believes everyone has access to divine guidance. We all have a divinely directed path as well as free will, and we have a choice: to be right or to be happy. His daily prayer is: I pray to know God’s will for me today, have the faith and the courage to do my part and not be attached to the results. As long as he stays in that space, everything works perfectly.

To find out more about Don and his work, please visit his website: http://donmilton.net/.

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Negotiation is a skill that must be learned. Most people never get beyond the simple quid pro exchange of essentially, “I’ll scratch your back if you scratch mine.” However, sophisticated negotiation requires much more than simple exchange. A lot of people forsake negotiation training. I think this is due to a number of myths around negotiators.

So, let’s look at these myths and dispel them.

The first myth is that negotiation is only about the money. Sometimes negotiation is about the money, but many times negotiation is about anything but the money. In fact, the money simply becomes a symbol for much deeper underlying needs and issues that must be resolved.

Another myth around mediation says that negotiation means getting the best deal for me or my client. Often times, the best outcome is not going to be the best deal for me or my client. It can be making sure that everybody gets a good deal out of negotiation. Sure, there are times when negotiation can become very competitive. However great negotiators find that if they can make a deal that satisfies everybody as reasonably as possible, then they really done a great job. Negotiators that are purely selfish find that they reach impasse and suboptimal deals quite frequently.

The third myth is that negotiation is simple, or the opposite, that negotiation is hard. Actually negotiation is not a simple nor is it hard. There is a lot to understand about the theory and practice of negotiation, but it is not a simple process of simply exchanging dollar numbers in a distributive auction.Nor is it an arcane, difficult to understand, highly sophisticated practice that only experienced negotiators can successfully engage in.

There is also a myth that negotiation follows a predictable pathway and that only simple steps need to be followed. The truth is that negotiation is not always a predictable path. It is true that in some broad frameworks of distributive negotiation certain steps follow one after another. However, learning how to negotiate by formula or recipe will lead to disaster. As you study negotiation, you earn about the nuances of negotiation practice and understand that it is not a linear process at all. It is iterative, elicitive, and reflective.

Some people are thought to be born negotiators. Think about this one a moment. Even used-car salesman have to go through extensive training to learn how to sell cars. So negotiators are not born, they are made. The good news is that you do not have to wait 20 or 30 years to become a masterful negotiator.

Another myth is that wicked and evil people make better negotiators.
Actually, if you look around the Middle East in the last two years, you can see that leaders like Sadaam Hussein, Moammar Ghaddaffi, and Hosni Mubarak who have committed crimes against humanity turned out to be very poor negotiators. Most people mistake the fact that people in a position of power may often appear to have a better BATNA. BATNA means “best alternative to a negotiated agreement.” 

Some people believe that negotiation is a failure if you do not gain anything at the end of the day. Well, if you are a defense lawyer, you will never gain anything in negotiation. Often times a good negotiation outcome is defined by how risk is managed by the parties and their lawyers.

In addition, there are many negotiations where there is no gain, but there is a restoration of relationship a rebalancing of power, a reconciliation of injustice, and a righting of moral wrongs.

Knowing about these myths can help you overcome the idea that sophisticated negotiation is a skill to be learned and mastered, not an arcane art left only to the very experienced professional.

Remember, the best way to win the game is to call it yourself.
Better still, change the game completely.

Douglas E. Noll, J.D., M.A.
Mediator, Author, and
California Lawyer 2012 Attorney of the Year
for Pro Bono Service
Creator of Negotiation Mastery for the Legal Pro –
A new online course in cutting-edge legal negotiation
legalpronegotiator.com